tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post1359699052006875157..comments2023-09-22T13:57:20.922-04:00Comments on From The Valley To The Palais: Goodbyesnappy valley girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10788949037047084412noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-4549845717264331462012-07-26T14:44:21.976-04:002012-07-26T14:44:21.976-04:00Hugo - believe me, we have already thought of that...Hugo - believe me, we have already thought of that!<br /><br />ALW -exactly. We really bonded over the shared experience of not being American, I think...<br /><br />NB - thanks.<br /><br />Iota - very wise advice, thank you.<br /><br />Expat Mum - indeed. I think I can already identify who I'll stay in touch with, but it will be interesting to see....<br /><br />Circles - I know, and I can feel myself starting to distance myself from people here now that I know we're going back quite soon....nappy valley girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788949037047084412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-12996959451599130442012-07-25T11:29:23.341-04:002012-07-25T11:29:23.341-04:00So sorry you're losing such a good friend - if...So sorry you're losing such a good friend - if it's any consolation, when I met up with my Minnesota friends over the past week (after 4.5years) it was like hardly any time had elapsed - we just picked up where we left off (and I think Facebook really helps with that coz you can even keep up with day-to-day lives) and interestingly, even tho the kids didn't remember each other, they connected really quickly. It was wonderful, but it was really sad saying goodbye again, and I definitely view some friendships in Dubai quite differently - ie, I accept that a number of friends there are 'Dubai friends' who are great right now, but I know we'll likely all move on and perhaps I keep a bit of distance b'coz of that. Once bitten, twice shy!!Circles in the Sandhttp://dubaiunveiled.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-69346835128632693712012-07-25T09:26:19.815-04:002012-07-25T09:26:19.815-04:00I met a serial expat about four years ago who had ...I met a serial expat about four years ago who had lived in 12 different countries and moved 26 times since the age of 1 month! One thing I remember her saying, when she talked of this is "Never regret the friendships you've had", and it's a great philosophy to keep in mind. (Her name is Apple Gidley and she has just written her expat memoirs - "Expat Life Slice by Slice". ) It's very hard when the friends you make keep moving away but it's always quite interesting to see which ones you manage to keep in touch with.Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-6206010180041727232012-07-25T02:48:11.929-04:002012-07-25T02:48:11.929-04:00Perfect, perfect post. You say it so well. Beautif...Perfect, perfect post. You say it so well. Beautifully written.<br /><br />This is the very hardest thing about moving. Leaving friends. We, like your friend, have had a lot of near misses over the past 3 years, and each time we haven't moved, there was a part of me which was relieved, because it put off the time when I'd have to leave friends.<br /><br />I have come to change my view of friendship, though. I think you have to live in the present with them. Sometimes old friendships can actually be a burden - and we can't even admit that to ourselves. We all change, and there's often quite a bit of baggage in a friendship. For all the grief and loss, I think that perhaps having friendships for a while, and then being forced by circumstances to loose hold of them, is actually a healthy thing. Very painful at the time, though.Iota https://www.blogger.com/profile/08507184283437057648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-32590616580067233662012-07-24T09:00:18.116-04:002012-07-24T09:00:18.116-04:00What a wonderful friend to have...and don't th...What a wonderful friend to have...and don't think too much about the futureNota Benehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969705852180234416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-34608142960323735772012-07-23T20:26:44.440-04:002012-07-23T20:26:44.440-04:00This has to be the hardest thing of being an expat...This has to be the hardest thing of being an expat. Even harder than missing friends and family back home. The ever shifting ground beneath one's feet. I know how you feel. Hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-57546650133720561472012-07-23T19:04:24.036-04:002012-07-23T19:04:24.036-04:00Being away together - expats like that really ceme...Being away together - expats like that really cements these friendships I think and in some ways you'll be pretty close to her just by being in England.About Last Weekendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04716571630418078937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7290395635850697105.post-86273202564205430652012-07-23T17:50:59.785-04:002012-07-23T17:50:59.785-04:00One way of keeping in touch is to send your childr...One way of keeping in touch is to send your children on mutual exchanges when the time comes. That time may seem enormously far away just now, but believe me, it isn't!Hugonoreply@blogger.com